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How to Know When to Use Tú (Vos) or Usted?

Written by María Flores | Apr 16, 2025 4:38:40 PM

Tú, Vos, or Usted: When to Use Them?

Tú, Vos, and Usted, all mean “you,” but how do we know when to use each one? What’s the difference between them?

Let’s break it down and answer those questions clearly.

 

Tú vs. Usted: What 's the Difference?

Let’s see when to use Tú or Usted. We use tú when we are familiar with or have a close relationship with the person we’re speaking to. This includes your inner circle, family, friends, or even tutors you’ve built a connection with.

So, for people you’re close to, you use tú and its corresponding verb forms.

Ejemplo: Tú eres mi amigo (You are my friend)

On the other hand, we use Usted for more formal situations, basically, the opposite of . Use usted when speaking to someone you don’t know well, or not at all.

But it’s not just about familiarity  we also use usted when addressing:

  • Authority figures (like your boss)
  • Professionals (like a doctor or lawyer)
  • Elders (such as an older adult or someone you want to show respect to)

Ejemplo: Usted es mi amigo (You are my friend)

Both “Tú eres mi amigo” and “Usted es mi amigo” mean the same thing in English, but they reflect very different levels of formality and closeness in Spanish.

Also worth noting: in some regions, like the Andean area of Venezuela, people use usted casually, even with friends and family. In that case, it’s just part of the local way of speaking, not necessarily about formality or distance.

 

Have you heard the verb ‘Tutear’?

There’s even a verb that comes from using tú: tutear.

It means to speak to someone using tú instead of usted.

You might hear someone say: “Puedes tutearme” (You can use tú with me), especially if you start off calling them usted. Some people say this to make things feel more relaxed or friendly.

On the flip side, some people don’t like being addressed with usted, it can make them feel old!

Ok, So What’s the Deal with Vos?

Vos also means you (like tú) but it’s used in different parts of the Spanish-speaking world.

Why don’t we hear it as often? Well, Vos has a long and fascinating history. It dates back to the 4th century when it was used to address emperors and high-ranking people with great respect. Over time in Spain, it became a respectful form of “you,” but eventually Usted took over that role, and vos mostly faded away… in Spain.

But with colonization, vos made its way into Latin America and stuck around. Today, it’s a completely valid and commonly used form of “you” in many countries.

This use of vos is called Voseo, and it’s spoken in countries like:

  • Argentina (Voseo argentino)
  • Uruguay
  • Paraguay
  • Costa Rica

Parts of: Venezuela, Colombia, Honduras, Chile, and Bolivia

So yes, once again, history reminds us how connected we truly are, even when our accents and slang sound worlds apart. Pretty special, right? It sure feels that way to me.

How to Conjugate Vos

Vos has its own special conjugation called Voseo Verbal. It uses verb endings that come from second-person plural forms, adapted for singular use.

Here are some examples:

  • Vos podés nadar (You can swim) vs. Tú puedes nadar
  • Vos vivís en Corrientes vs. Tú vives en Corrientes
  • Vos caminás todo el día vs. Tú caminas todo el día

It sounds a little different from what you might hear in dubbed shows or movies, but it’s super catchy, and once you get the hang of it, you’ll love it.

If you ever visit Argentina or another Voseo country, give it a try! Locals will appreciate it, and it’ll help you sound more natural.

Common Mistakes with Tú, Vos, and Usted

Here are a few things to watch out for:

  • Never use tú with someone much older or in a formal setting unless they invite you to ("a tutearme").
  • In professional or business settings, always start with usted until the other person signals otherwise.
  • Using vos outside of Voseo countries might confuse people, so listen first and adapt.

Next time you hear , usted, or vos, you'll understand exactly why it's being used, and how to use it yourself!
Which one do you connect with the most? Are you a fan of voseo argentino, perhaps? We'd love to hear your preference!